Just wanted to wish you all a Happy Halloween! My mom always made this day special with silly costumes (usually sewn the night before since I took forever to decide, or I changed my mind), special pumpkin-y treats, pumpkin carving, so so much candy. I really like the fall. My birthday is in September, we got married in October, and my daughter's birthday is in November. Our little 23 month old doesn't eat candy but I'm hopeful she'll put her costume on to at least give candy out to the neighbors. Either way, here's hoping we can make the day special for her like my mom did for me. It's going to be cold here in Albuquerque tomorrow, which reminds me of nearly every Halloween growing up in my Chicago suburb. I don't really remember seeing costumes without winter coats covering them! Keep warm everyone and I hope you have a really fun day!!
Hiring a doula for the birth of your baby is an important and personal decision. Websites like to suggest a checklist of questions to cover during your initial doula interview. Of course, you are welcome to ask anything that makes you feel like you are making a good choice for your birth team during your free consultation-doula interview. This is a monumental day and your birth will be in your memory for the rest of your life. It's a big decision.
Here in New Mexico we have a lot of doula options and I suggest all my potential clients interview at least two additional birth doula choices. Please don't go strictly by price. Most of the doulas I know (myself included) are willing to work with you to arrange a payment schedule or even slide their scale to support your birth, if necessary. I also suggest you don't choose a doula strictly by total births attended either. This question misses the beautiful tapestry of experiences that doulas weave together to create their approach to birth support! Doulas come from so many diverse backgrounds (for instance, I am also a professional musician) and few doulas take a straightforward pathway into birth work, so it’s worth listening for their unique trajectory.
In my humble opinion you will decide your doula is right in your gut. How do you feel when you are in your meeting? Are you heard? Are you feeling respected? Are you connecting with the personality of the person/doula you are interviewing? Do you feel the doula is knowledgeable about birth and capable and confident in handling various birth scenarios?
Trust yourself and your feelings! This is your birth and the right support is out there.
Bottom line: you should be left with the feeling that your doula can support you, whether they have attended 5, 50, or 500 births